Traveling as a couple isn’t always easy. Find out 5 incredible tips based on our own experiences, to survive as a couple while traveling
My experiences traveling as a couple
Since I’ve met Jan, we almost always travel together. Of course there are exceptions such as work trips, journeys with friends and family and of course here and there some notorious bachelors weekends. But otherwise he is always my number 1 partner in crime when we take of for a new adventure.
When you always travel together as a couple, for both short trips and longer round trips, difficult moments can arise. That makes sense because when you travel, you are practically together 24 hours a day. Hence the saying that your partner will only really get to know you if you travel together.
Do you want to know more about how Jan and I met? Read all about it right here.
Jan and I also have those difficult moments. Even though our travel adventures always seem perfect on social media, that’s not always the case. Over the years we’ve got to know each other better and meanwhile we know how we can best deal with such situations. Based on our own expiriences we have 5 golden tips to survive traveling as a couple. These always help us to meet in the middle.
5 incredible tips to survive traveling as a couple
1. 1 + 1 = 2
This is such a simple calculation. But believe it or not, we do sometimes forget to take our partner into account. To consider your partner doesn’t mean that you have to sacrifice everything you want to do to make the other person happy. You’ll have to find a good middle ground.
I’m a real planner and before we leave for a new destination, I ask Jan to look up what he really wants to see or do. I always try to plan his preferences together with the things I want to do. So when traveling we can experience the best of both worlds.
Besides that we like differents activities, we are also very different personalities. I like to follow the shedule and this can cuase a serious case of FOMO (fear of missing out). If something changes in the schedule, I can experience al lot of stress as a result. Jan is way calmer in that area and he quickly deals with unexpected changes.
To counter this, we learned along the way that it is easier not to plan too much or in my words, to plan spare time. In this was everything remains feasible and there is time enough to realize everything without hurry or stress.
When dividing tasks we also take each other’s strengths into account. I am usually responsible for planning and storing travel documents. Jan is better at packing electronic devices that are needed for photography, computer, … and makes sure everything is charged. This way we have a set of tasks and we don’t give each other unnecessary stress for being responsible for tasks that we are less good at.
2. Open and positive communication
Living with someone 24 hours a day isn’t easy. Even though you know each other through and through, minor irritations can always arise. That ‘s why it’s important that you also communicate with each other about this. Be constructive and positive when you do this and don’t tear eachother apart. As a result, you also act preventively and outsmart major arguments.
I am a very open and direct person while Jan is a more closed person. Sometimes I can be very direct, making things look much worse than I really mean them. While Jan sometimes keeps irritations inside him till he explodes. Because of this we really had to learn to communicate with each other in the right way.
If I’m sometimes too busy with planning or photo shoots, Jan will now point this out way quicker. When we talk, we always remain constructive and give each other positive feedback. It’s important that we both feel good and happy.
A topic that causes irritation and frustration in many relationships are the finances. Nothing is more annoying than worrying about money on your vacation. So agree in advance how much you want and can spend, and how you will divide the costs during. A useful app for this is spiltwise.
3. 2 -1 = 1
No, this is not a maths class. But again that simple calculation to show that you don’t have to do everything together. If you have limited time in certain places and you both want to see something without sacrificing it for eachother, you can perfectly decide to go your own way and tmeet afterwards.
I love strolling around local markets and buying souvenirs. This is less Jan’s thing. He would rather taste a local beer in an authentic bar. After we’ve both done our own thing, it is super cool to see each other again and swap stories.
When traveling as a couple you can also take time for yourself during the day. As you can see I like to take a long bath and have a little Me-time. Or we out together, but we each do our own thing. It’s not because you go somewhere together that you cannot take time for yourself.
In addition to time for yourself, it is also of great importance to make time for romance once in a while. This can be a dinner with a beautiful view, enjoying a local wine together in a unique setting or even sharing an adrenaline rush together.
One of my most memorable romantic moments is zip-line across the Tara canyon in Montenegro. Nothing more romantic than declaring your love while dangling over a river, right?
One of the most important elements that shouldn’ be missed from your journey is very simple: enjoyment. Even if you want to see, do and experience a lot during a trip, don’t forget to enjoy the present moment. In unforeseen circumstances, try not to lose patience, but try to keep the humor in it.
I am aware that these tips seem self-evident, but I know from personal experience that they are quickly overlooked. I hope that as a couple they offer you some guidelines or help you to fully enjoy your journey together.
What was your most romantic moment when traveling together? Let me know below.
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